I Just Spent My Rent on Lingerie: Budgeting for the Woefully Addicted – Part 2

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Last week, I wrote about assessing your lingerie purchases as a way of budgeting. This week I am getting down to the nitty-gritty of limiting intake in creative ways. I do find that it is nearly impossible to stick to a limiting budget if you have not first employed one of the assessments I spoke about previously. Often, they the go hand in hand. You need to be able to assess what you want, why you want it, how much you want it, and more so you can actually narrow down your purchases. Then, you can employ one of the following five tactics for curbing your spending. By the way, these budgeting tips are great for whatever: fashion, shoes, handbags, cosmetics, body lotions (eep…), and more.

1) Monetary Limit Per Month

Simple: set a spending limit per month and do not go over it. This can be done in a variety of methods: I will present three here.

  • A set monetary amount, like $100 per month.
  • A percentage of your monthly income, like 5%.
  • An hourly equivalent. If I make $15 per hour and want no more than 10 hrs labour going to lingerie, then that is $150.

Pros: this is a great way to cut down on your expenses if you are having difficulty with over spending. When finances become tight, this is a sure-fire way to curb spending.

Cons: Often this sort of budget leads to compromising on quality for quantity. If faced with buying one item for $150 or five items for $150, you may opt for more items. Secondly, if you find something that is a 10/10 for you but it is over your monthly budget… then you might resort to buying things that aren’t as special but fit into your budget.

2) Quantity Limit Per Month

Alternatively, you can limit your quantity per month. Make this realistic: if you are buying ten items per month and suddenly set a limit of two – you are going to fail. I suggest slowly tapering down per month to a goal ‘number’ you want per month.

Pros: If you have overflowing drawers, then this method is your friend. You slow down your intake of everything. It also narrows things down to what you really MUST OWN. With this method, you can buy the perfect piece even if it costs a fair bit.

Cons: With no set monetary budget, you might suddenly have the urge to pad your wardrobe out with Agent Provocateur, I.D. Sarrieri, and Amoralle. I wouldn’t blame you. Thus, I find methods 1) and 2) work better together as an either/or option. Either I buy one item at any price OR I spend up to $150 per month.

3) Buying Day of the Month

Have that ‘I need to buy’ impulse every week… maybe even every day? You need to set aside a special day per month for buying lingerie. Control your craving by controlling your reward. While I have not tried this method yet, I like the idea of the 20th of each month being my ‘buying’ day as my birthday is on the 20th of June. Sort of like a monthly ‘anniversary’.

Pros: Save everything you must buy until one day per month. Because you have been sitting on your wishlist for so long, there is a good chance you have whittled it down to what you actually must have. This method takes the daily deliberation out of buying. Spending all on one day is also a good way of taking stock of your finances instead of spreading out the purchases over a month where they don’t ‘look so bad’ but actually really add up.

Cons: There is no monetary limit and no quantity limit. You could literally buy whatever you want. You may also miss that hot sale because your day did not occur during the sale.

4) Balance Method: +1 / -1

You wear something out, and then you purchase another. You sell something on Facebook/eBay/etc. and then you can buy another. This method is about achieving homeostasis within your wardrobe where nothing is added without something of equal weight (1 for 1) being subtracted. You can take this farther with individual items. Example: only buy a new pair of underwear when an old pair has been tossed. Only buy a new bra when an old one has been sold, given away, or worn out. You can also screw with the ratio for those trying to reduce their collection. Try 2/1, 5/1, or 10/1 ratios where several items must be removed for one to come in.

Pros: Great way to limit your spending ($$) and limit your intake. You can reduce your wardrobe down to just the stuff you love and still bring new pieces in. Because your buying is so limited, you should be only buying the items you must own at this point.

Cons: This system can be incredibly limiting and can result in the lingerie addict tossing perfectly good lingerie they like just so they can buy new. Don’t do that!

5) Reward System

Reward systems are probably the best known way of limiting lingerie intake. I have seen several lingerie bloggers (like Marionette Mew) use reward systems for celebrating achievements. You can reward yourself for weight loss, completing projects, milestones, etc.

Pros: Lingerie can encourage you to accomplish things in your daily life that are difficult or require a lot of effort for little natural reward. This also limits your intake to when you have actually accomplished something.

Cons: This does the odd thing of “lingerie = reward” and this method can actually reinforce lingerie as an ‘addiction’. Look, most addictions form because they are a ‘reward’ to our system in some form or another. That first hit feels soooo good that you keep trying to replicate it. It reminds me of food rewards as a kid and my struggle with food ever since. Face it: we want to be rewarded even at times we do not deserve it.

Hey lovelies? Do you have any tips for limiting your lingerie consumption? I would love to hear them!

FYI: I am looking to sell the corset in the top image. If you are interested, drop me a line!

4 Comments Add yours

  1. Estelle says:

    Great blog 🙂 I’m thinking of setting myself an annual budget, so I can break it down roughly by 12 but if I spend over one month and less the next I’ll be fine with that – because I buy so much of my lingerie during the summer, Christmas/New Year and Black Friday sales.

    Also like I mentioned on Twitter, just keeping written track of what you’ve spent each month can help. I tend to buy things on sale and it’s a ‘oh, this is cheap!’, ‘that’s so cheap, I can afford that’ kind of thing, so it doesn’t *seem* like I’m spending much, but it actually adds up to a fair bit. So by keeping a running total, I can tell myself ‘hmm, this bra is cheap but I’ve already spent £x this month, can I REALLY afford it even if it’s a good deal?’.


    1. Avigayil says:

      That is a great idea! ❤ I totally agree that things add up… I have been watching my spending for a year and some months are just crazy.


  2. pikkonoloidlee says:

    I pretty much set a monetary limit and then if I want something expensive I can either wait more than one month or work overtime if it’s available. Also, I like to save major spending for holidays when there will likely be sales.

    But yeah I essentially use my wishlists on various sites to plan what I want to buy and purchase based on what I really want/need and what I can fit into my budget for the month.


    1. Avigayil says:

      Sounds great. The working overtime to afford what you want is a good idea. 🙂


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